January 29, 2010
Yes, I’m Asking “Why?”
So here’s the question that everybody asks at some point in their lives, but no one reaaaally knows the answer to…
Why do horrible, horrible things happen to good, good people?
The possible answers to this age-old question are endless.
“Because it’s God’s plan.”
“It’s meant to be.”
“It’ll make you stronger.”
“It just is.”
While I realize these answers are meant to be comforting, my immediate response is a big ole’ “f you”. It’s a load of crap. Really. Bad things happen to good people and that’s life. And it sucks. And I hate it. And I want it to stop right now. RIGHT NOW.
Is there some bigger meaning behind the suffering and the pain that some people have to go through? I’d like to think there is… And really what I mean is that I hope to God that it’s all not just some kind of universal being’s idea of a funny joke.
And those answers still don’t help me understand…
Why does my friend have cancer and I don’t and you don’t and they don’t? Why is Haiti in ruins and our country isn’t? Why do I have an abundance of food on my table and others don’t?
It’s not fair and I don’t get it.
The only answer that ever struck a teeny-tiny little chord with me was the following:
“Think about it this way… If you can get through all the really bad parts and still carry that love with you… you and the entire world will be a better place for it.”
Personally I’d still like to pass on the heartache it took to get to that place, but okay.
gemarrs said,
January 29, 2010 at 3:04 am
Why does the cute little fish get eaten?
Or the innocent zebra hunted down by the lion for dinner?
Why does the changing climate and terrain over millions of years kill off entire species?
And you think people are exempt from this? HA!
Just my two cents.
Heartfelt blog btw.
Jonny said,
January 29, 2010 at 5:50 pm
Who did you quote that from?
Don’t forget that good things happen to good people too. If all my experiences were good, I wouldn’t appreciate them as much as I do.
gemarrs said,
January 29, 2010 at 7:49 pm
It’s not a quote. It’s my own reply. haha!
It’s just that a lot of people think we are exempt from the cycle of life run by nature. They also don’t realize that we have evolved our society to the point where we are destroying ourselves. We’re living in the middle of natural consequence. I don’t see it as an act of God.
mindofmarissa said,
January 30, 2010 at 12:50 am
Jonny – Did you mean the quote in the post? The “Think about it this way…” one? That was courtesy of Sharon…
And gemarrs, first of all thanks so much for reading the blog and for the comments! I totally see your point. So often we all do forget that we’re still a part of that big ole circle of life – along with every other creature on the planet. It’s good to be reminded of that – the interconnectivity that exists between everything.
I guess this post just came about from my frustrations and my feelings of futility in regards to all the recent devastation and tragedy in Haiti and then for one of my loveliest of friends who is battling breast cancer. Simply and on the most basic of levels, I want to get rid of (both her and their) pain – which I can’t. And so then I want to make sense of it – which I can’t.
Jonny said,
January 30, 2010 at 3:47 pm
Yeah the quote from your blog was the one I meant! My gut feeling was Sharon…